Monday, June 27, 2011

Saying NO to Fear

Hello, good Monday morning. Today I am participating in my first ever blog link up. I have been participating in Liv Lane's e-course on How to build a blog you truly love. Today Liv is encouraging and challenging us to be authentic and brave; to post something about ourselves that maybe we wouldn't post publicly and then link up to it on Liv's blog. At first I didn't want to participate. I didn't want to put myself out there and let people in. It is one thing to write something from the heart and another to link up to it and invite the world in. I was afraid of being rejected, afraid of sounding like a fool, just plain AFRAID.
Fear!

It stops me in my tracks so often. I have lived with it my whole life and it has stopped me from experiencing so many good things. From the fear of things like sharks keeping me out of the ocean, to the fear of failure stopping me from trying new things and taking risks. I know that a lot of people experience this but I have yet to learn to move past it. I try to be rational but I always come back to feeling unworthy or feeling like I don't deserve whatever success may come my way. Who am I to start a blog, no one wants to know anything about me! Who am I to have a creative life or business, it is only a matter of time before someone figures out that I have no talent! These thoughts plaque me every time a new possibility opens up for me. I put everything on hold because I feel like I need to have all my angles covered before I dive into something new. As a result, I end up doing nothing!

When I dream of my life I am strong, confident, and I live a full life without fear standing in my way. I want to live a life that my kids can be proud of, I want to leave them a legacy where they know that they can truly do and be anything. That failure is a fact of life but if they don't try, they can never even hope to succeed.

I have been working on making these dreams come true. I AM good enough and I DO deserve to have the life I have imagined. People ARE interested in me. So, I am reading books by Brene BrownKelly Rae Roberts, and others. I am building my confidence and I am setting fear aside. I am going to push fear aside and barrel on through and come out on the other side smiling. If failure comes knocking, at least I will know that I did all I could to find success and happiness!

This post is my first step! Thanks for taking the time to stop by.

Happiness always,
Deb

7 comments:

Bonita Rose said...

Congrats on being you... I am along the same journey as you... xo hugs.. let's do this together! So so wonderful to call you my new friend.
xo

Anonymous said...

So glad you're making strides toward achieving those dreams! Can't wait to see where you go from here.:)

Liv @ Choosing Beauty said...

Wonderful, Deb! So glad you stepped out of your comfort zone to share this. The only way to overcome fear is to walk THROUGH it and you're doing that just by giving a voice to it here. You have lots to give and we DO want to hear from you. Thanks for linking up and sharing this piece of yourself!

Andrea Badgley said...

Bravo, Deb! You are absolutely right that posting this is the first step in facing your fears. It was hard wasn't it? But you did it, and we're all here to applaud you for it! I especially love that you said you will "come out the other side smiling." If you visualize yourself that way, that is exactly what will happen :-)

Jennifer Richardson said...

Cheering you on
with a big grin
and genuine interest
in what you have to say
....in who you are.
I want to know!
Glad you stepped out of that
comfy no-go zone
....well done, you:)
-Jennifer

Anonymous said...

Deb, wow! It amazes me how so very similar so many of us are! When I read the part about 'who am I to have a creative life' 'it is only a matter of time before someone figures out that I have no talent!' -- yep, my biggest fear! I adore Brene Brown's books as well, and actually listen to them as audio books repeatedly...thank you for sharing your heart!

Deb said...

Thank you everyone for your kindness and support. It means the world to me.

Deb

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